Next week Blake will be turning six, and I can't believe where the time has gone. I can still remember nearly every second of the day he was born. As he was placed into my arms for the first time I made a promise to him that I would give him the best life that I possibly could, so far I think I've achieved that. Although it hasn't always been easy, I've pretty much raised him myself from day one and some days have been harder than others.
I get asked a lot by strangers and people I know how I raise Blake. Some people seem to find it utterly amazing that someone in a wheelchair could raise a child, and while it's different for everyone, for me being in a wheelchair hasn't made it extra challenging. When I was pregnant I quickly figured out how I was going to do things, and for the most part they worked out.
Young children adapt easily, when Blake reached six months old he would hold on to the sides of my chair when he was sitting on my lap, and when he needed to be picked up as a newborn from the floor I would place him on the sofa first and then quickly get into my chair. Luckily for me he wasn't a rolling baby, but I placed pillows on the floor just incase.
Some things became easier as he got older, like giving him a bath, something that the kitchen sink was handy for when I was on my own. Carrying him in a baby carrier became more difficult the heavier he got, although I still managed until he was two and a half!
Another product that came in handy were reins, I don't know what I would have done without them. I probably would have never allowed him to walk anywhere otherwise! I wonder if the manufacturer of these products know that these products are the reason many disabled parents are able to look after their children?
Now that he's older the things I have to think about are the same things that every parent has to deal with. School, behaviour and making sure he has a good diet. Oh and surviving the upcoming summer holidays. I still can't get my head around the fact he will be six years old this summer. I'm not going to lie and say that I've enjoyed every minute because raising a child is hard, but I still wouldn't change it for the world.